What Kind of Father Do I Want to Be?

At our last coaching session, I was asked to produce a list of questions to enable discussion. Apparently, my coach was looking for just 5-10 questions but I produced much more!

One of the questions I chose as critical for my life was “What kind of father do I want to be?”. So I’ll be generating additional thoughts on this for my session tomorrow.

In case you were wondering what my laundry list of questions was:

Who am I?
What do I value?
What do I like?
What do I love?
What do I hate?
What do I dislike?
What am I looking for?
What do I want out of life?
What drives me?
What turns me on? About places, persons, things?
What turns me off? About places, persons, things?
What do I desire?
What do I want?
What do I not desire?
What do I not want?
Why do I categorize my friends?
How do I categorize my friends?
How have I changed?
How am I the same?
How do I envision myself in the future?
How do I view myself now?
How do I think others view me?
How do I want others to view me?
What kind of person do I want to be?
What kind of person do I not want to be?
What are my goals?
What do I believe in?
Where do I like being?
What do I like doing?
Why is learning and growing so important to me?
Who are my heroes and why?
Why are heroes important?
Who is important to me and why?
Why do I work?
Why do I train?
What kind of father do I want to be?
What kind of friend do I want to be?
What are my strengths?
What are my weaknesses?
What am I afraid of?
What kind of spouse do I want to be?
When do I want to be what?
What frustrates me?
What doesn’t frustrate me?
What do I admire?
What do I detest?
What parts of me do I like?
What parts of me do I dislike?
Where do I like to be and why?
What kinds of situations do I prefer?
What motivates me?
What de-motivates me?
What interests me?
What doesn’t interest me?
What types of things interest me?
Why am I doing the things I am doing now:
Startup, Piano, Training, Coaching
What do I dream about?
What do I wish for?
How do I want my kid(s) to grow up?
What kind of person/people do I want my kid(s) to grow up to be?
Why do I like my books?
Why do I quest for knowledge?
Why do I like to be creative?
Why do I like to get things done?
What do I have an affinity for?

Very thought provoking for me. Although we won’t have time to cover all these questions, I hope to find answers to most if not all at some point in the near future.

It’s all a part of really getting to know oneself. After all, if we deny or hide parts of ourselves, how can we really know ourselves and figure out how to drive our lives?